Combating Dating Fatigue
Dating fatigue can e you feeling discouraged, exhausted, and out-right done with dating. All in all, it seems to take the fun out of it, and isn’t dating supposed to be fun? In modern dating, fatigue seems to be more and more common, but there are ways to help combat burn out in your dating life. First and foremost, you need to be picky. So often, we hear the advice “lower your expectations”. But there’s a reason we set standards for ourselves, and we shouldn’t settle just for the sake of not being alone. You need to be picky and date people that are up to your standards, not your TYPE, but the standards you set for what you want. This ties directly into our next piece of advice, set boundaries. Before you start dating, we recommend making a list of non-negotiable for yourself and stick to them. If someone ticks off a non-negotiable no-no for you, don’t continue to give your time to them. By setting these boundaries for others and yourself, you’re that much closer to finding the right fit for you, and avoiding the burn out from constant disappointment. Not only should you set boundaries, you should also set expectations. While this may seem the same as our previous two pieces of advice, we can assure you it’s not. Setting expectations is about being treated the way you desire to be treated. For instance, are you really fine with dinner and a movie for a first date? If you are, great! But, maybe you want someone to bring a bit more spontaneity to your life. If you prefer someone who will take the interests you’ve shared with them and spend the time to plan a personalized date, that’s not asking too much! The same goes for how they communicate. Some people are fine with a few texts through out the week as you get to know each other, others prefer to have daily communication, and neither are wrong. What’s important is that you take the time to get to know your expectations, and share these with your potential dates (because no one we know of can read minds). By doing this, you are making sure that you are being treated in a way that makes you feel good. And finally, don’t just date for the sake of dating. And we don’t mean to say that there’s nothing wrong with dating for fun and getting to know people. We simply mean that before you head out on the town, ask yourself WHY you’re dating. If it is simply to find a sense of validation, or to give yourself a distraction from past hurt, then you’re going to burn out from not giving your body and mind what they need … a break! So whether you’re stepping into the dating world for the first time, or with well worn shoes, give our advice a shot and see the difference in your dating life nearly instantly.